March 31st, 2008
Bryans work called today and of course his morphine showed up on the drug screen. They need a current list of his medications from his doctor. Bryan hasn’t gotten morphine from a doctor with the VA here yet because it took almost two months to get it. So he needs his doctor from Walter Reed to write it. She is on leave until tomorrow. Another set back. As my mother calls it “it’s a nickel holding up a dollar.” I think that should be our theme phrase. Bryan forgot to tell me however that he got 100% disability from the VA today. I started jumping up and down when he told me. That is another weight lifted off my chest. Whew now I can breathe easier.
Last night I was reading a magazine that I had picked up at the store. It was about the women at Ft. Hood who have experienced being the widow of a soldier. They have the largest amount of deaths at one single base. Their words touched me. One woman said that her friends strayed after her husband died. It’s like her friends didn’t want to catch her bad luck. I understood what she meant. Some of my friends ran like wildfire. Especially two that were single at the time. I don’t talk to them anymore but I am still friends with them on myspace. They are both dating deployed soldiers and I know what that is like but they ran from me. They were not true friends and now they get to do on their own. I could have been someone to help them through and share my advice. They weren’t there for me and I cut those losses. I had two amazing friends who stuck by my side. One who was a complete stranger that sent me the kindest e-mail on myspace and our friendship has blossomed from there. I am going to “meet” her face to face for the first time the end of next month. The other I met while both our husbands were deployed. She is a rock and source of strength. She can cry with me and listen when I need to bitch. She is a genuine friend. She lives in Texas now and I didn’t get to see her much before she left but she has kept in touch with me the entire time. I get to see her again in May. It’s been almost a year since I’ve seen her. I am thrilled as she is one of those people that you can truly cherish.
Monday, March 31, 2008
Friday, March 28, 2008
Honorably Discharged
March 28th, 2008
Today is the day; my husband is officially out of the Army. It is over. Almost 12 years of service, many separations, 3 overseas deployments. Its one chapter closed and another one opened. Bryan still hasn’t started his job. They called today and said that HR hasn’t completed the background screening. I am so frustrated as he was supposed to start two weeks ago. The money from the Army has officially ended and he hasn’t gotten his rating from the VA and his Social Security Disability doesn’t start until April 24th. We are so lucky we have savings in situations like this. Bryan’s parents are in town so he is glad he does have off work to spend it with them. We will be entertaining all weekend.
Today is the day; my husband is officially out of the Army. It is over. Almost 12 years of service, many separations, 3 overseas deployments. Its one chapter closed and another one opened. Bryan still hasn’t started his job. They called today and said that HR hasn’t completed the background screening. I am so frustrated as he was supposed to start two weeks ago. The money from the Army has officially ended and he hasn’t gotten his rating from the VA and his Social Security Disability doesn’t start until April 24th. We are so lucky we have savings in situations like this. Bryan’s parents are in town so he is glad he does have off work to spend it with them. We will be entertaining all weekend.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
5 years of War
March 20th, 2008
Today, 5 years ago the war in Iraq started. I remember sitting on my mother’s couch watching the news. Merely 12 days before I sent my boyfriend of 6 months, now husband, off to war. I watched the bombs come down like fireworks. I was stunned. I had talked to Bryan once since he arrived there and I was terrified of where he was and how he was participating in this. I thought if at any time he was going to be injured it would have been during the initial invasion. I had no idea it would be 6 weeks before he was to return home on his second year long tour in Iraq. I can’t believe that this is still going on. I can’t believe how we made it through two years of the reality of war. We were scared, disconnected at times, and always longing for it to be over. Who knew that at this moment his men would be spending their 3rd tour over there and this time for 15 months? Who knew that my sister would be engaged to a soldier also from Missouri that is serving in Iraq at this time? I want it all to be over I want them home and safe. I am always so filled with heartache for those killed in action or being med evaced to Walter Reed or Bamsey. It is life shattering and life altering. I wish this upon no one.
Today, 5 years ago the war in Iraq started. I remember sitting on my mother’s couch watching the news. Merely 12 days before I sent my boyfriend of 6 months, now husband, off to war. I watched the bombs come down like fireworks. I was stunned. I had talked to Bryan once since he arrived there and I was terrified of where he was and how he was participating in this. I thought if at any time he was going to be injured it would have been during the initial invasion. I had no idea it would be 6 weeks before he was to return home on his second year long tour in Iraq. I can’t believe that this is still going on. I can’t believe how we made it through two years of the reality of war. We were scared, disconnected at times, and always longing for it to be over. Who knew that at this moment his men would be spending their 3rd tour over there and this time for 15 months? Who knew that my sister would be engaged to a soldier also from Missouri that is serving in Iraq at this time? I want it all to be over I want them home and safe. I am always so filled with heartache for those killed in action or being med evaced to Walter Reed or Bamsey. It is life shattering and life altering. I wish this upon no one.
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
He is Offically Employed
March 12th, 2008
Today he got the call, he has the job. What I feel? WHEEEWWWW what a relief! The salary is more than what we needed to survive but not at the very top either. We are excited now we can pay our bills! We went out to celebrate at a restaurant and really enjoyed each other company. I finally after over a year I can breath. Our worries are melting away. Our new chapter is beginning. I am so proud of him! He said to me the other night that he was always proud to say his career was a soldier in the US Army he wanted his next job to be something he could be proud of as well. He is proud of his new job and I am proud of him for obtaining it.
Today he got the call, he has the job. What I feel? WHEEEWWWW what a relief! The salary is more than what we needed to survive but not at the very top either. We are excited now we can pay our bills! We went out to celebrate at a restaurant and really enjoyed each other company. I finally after over a year I can breath. Our worries are melting away. Our new chapter is beginning. I am so proud of him! He said to me the other night that he was always proud to say his career was a soldier in the US Army he wanted his next job to be something he could be proud of as well. He is proud of his new job and I am proud of him for obtaining it.
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Another Battle Won
March 4th, 2008
Today I was feeling good and when I got home I found out why. Bryan got his social security disability approved! They had denied him twice and we were told it was going to take a year to get a hearing. When the wounded warrior project representative called Bryan a few weeks ago she asked if there were any issues. We told her about social security disability and how they check on it for us by signing a waiver. His case should be priority so I had faxed the form the very next day. I am not sure what magic they pulled out of their hat but it got approved a week later. Halleluiah another battle won! They should back pay him up to the date of the application date and he should get partial payments once he starts his job. Also when Bryan checked his e-mail TSGLI said they received his appeal of the denial of the 4th payment. It took Bryan so long to get around to getting his appeal written by the doctor and TSGLI said they weren’t sure why he got denied for the 4th based on how long he couldn’t perform his Activities of Daily Living (ADLS). We are so hoping for that money for emergencies especially with the economy the way it is.
Today I was feeling good and when I got home I found out why. Bryan got his social security disability approved! They had denied him twice and we were told it was going to take a year to get a hearing. When the wounded warrior project representative called Bryan a few weeks ago she asked if there were any issues. We told her about social security disability and how they check on it for us by signing a waiver. His case should be priority so I had faxed the form the very next day. I am not sure what magic they pulled out of their hat but it got approved a week later. Halleluiah another battle won! They should back pay him up to the date of the application date and he should get partial payments once he starts his job. Also when Bryan checked his e-mail TSGLI said they received his appeal of the denial of the 4th payment. It took Bryan so long to get around to getting his appeal written by the doctor and TSGLI said they weren’t sure why he got denied for the 4th based on how long he couldn’t perform his Activities of Daily Living (ADLS). We are so hoping for that money for emergencies especially with the economy the way it is.
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